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Practicing Self-Love: You Can’t Control What People Think

Raki WrightRaki is a wife, mom of 2, coffee drinker, and list maker. She puts her UNC Tarheels’ degree in Communication Studies to use at an advertising agency and her hands-on experience as a working mom to use on her blog. She is the go-to gal for on-the-go moms. You can find her online at:  Outside the Box Mom / Twitter Facebook


Have you ever overhead someone saying unkind things about you? I have and it wasn’t fun.

I was in the midst of helping out someone and found out that they were making negative remarks about me. At first blush, I was very bothered because my intentions had been nothing but good.

I made sacrifices of my time, money, and resources to be of service in that situation. Overhearing those words was very hurtful and angered me by the lack of appreciation and consideration.

Nevertheless, I came to the realization that I can’t control anyone else’s opinion of me.

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All I can control are my actions and beliefs. As long is I continue to behave in a way that I believe is good, true, and noble, then I should be able to sleep soundly at night, with a clear conscience.

I know the situation will bother me for sometime because I can be sensitive, naive, and overly aware of others’ feelings about me. But I write this to share that in time I know the uncomfortable feeling will ease and that my own confidence will become greater.

I have heard that “if a million people tell you that you’re a great person, that still gets overshadowed by the one person who says that you’re a horrible person.”

Practicing Self-Love:

When you are faced with the same situation that I was, there are only three actions required.

  1. Ask yourself: Is there any truth to what someone have said about you?
  2. If there is truth: If there is, work on changing yourself. If there is no truth to it, ignore it.
  3. Understand and accept: Accept that you will not be able to change everyone’s opinion about you nor should you spend the time or energy trying.

Pray for wisdom in case any of this falls into a gray area for you.

I might as well save this speech and print it out for my four year old daughter and my 11 year old son. They will each learn, soon enough, that sometimes people just won’t like you. And that’s okay.

More tips and solutions for busy moms at Outside the Box Mom.

P.S. When you’re wearing something that makes you feel confident, you’re far less likely to care what others think of you, don’t you agree? One of the styles that flatters my rectangle-shaped figure is Julie. I love wearing my Julie dress in Canary Cube. 


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